The shes different syndrom

[streetlooker1]

What causes this common disease (Mental disorder) in western men going to SEA? While I be the 1st to admit I have tried to force relationships to actually work with bargirls. Pounding the square peg in a round hole has you will. I never thought any of the girls I have deal with were any different then any other bargirl I dealt with. I knew what they were and what I was dealing with. I still believe that a relationship with a bargirl can work BUT you have to have a mega amount of Money to maintain and a tolerance that shes going to fuck around on you. You must come to the conclusion that your relationship is based on money but IMO what relationship on this planet is Not???.

I got a friend who no matter what I say about his Girlfriend is convinced that shes a diamond in the ruff and even thou I known him since we was kids thinks what I say is total BS. I can;t stop him from sending money he really don;t have to her and I can;t stop him from stressing out about how he is going to get her here by his side. I already have made up my mind that I going to let him crash into the wall he is heading to at 150 MPH and be there for him when he needs me its coming to that very soon. So I don;t need advice on how to handle this Its settled. What I like to toss out is a discussion among everyone on what do you think causes this Mental disorder that MOST guy seem to suffer from once they get there 1st taste of SEA. Fire away guys

[woodyfl]

So is your question why do other guys fall in love with these girls and become attached to them?

Whereas you enjoy going over there and having fun but don't get emotionally attached? So you exempt yourself from the disorder?

Or do you suffer from it as well?

Just trying to clarify what you are asking.

[streetlooker1]

NO my question is WHAT is the cause of of it and how does it take hold of your sense of reality when you know damn good and well shes not different in any way from any other girl you ever dealt with that works a bar.

[woodyfl]

NO my question is WHAT is the cause of of it and how does it take hold of your sense of reality when you know damn good and well shes not different in any way from any other girl you ever dealt with that works a bar.

Thanks for the clarification. I never fell for a working active bargirl. Just the idea that thier pussy is on sale nightly for $25 kind of kills the romance part of it for me personally. I keep in touch with a few but i never send them anything and I have found they are the least begging in terms of money.

Province girls on the other hand, they are the ones that are the root of my irrational disease, I am stage 5 at this point and its incurable I think. They may in some cases be no different than bargirls one may argue but in my case I can rationalize it better.

[streetlooker1]

I explained that I believe there are successes that happen thou rare but I also maintain you have to have the funds to get you thru it till it can happen. There are guys sponsoring girls and or send them money to in what they think is exclusive rights to the girls loyalty. This is the part I am trying to get to the bottom of WHAT is it that makes a guy think that his girl is the different one even thou there is overwhelming evidence that shes not.

[lifeisgoodok]

I am a monger and not looking for romance with any prostitute, any where in the world. I have been to SEA before about 6-7 years ago to Thailand, Singapore, Indonesia and did the mongering. Yes, you may like some working girl to be friends with her, but in my case, I just do it purely for sex and may keep in touch in case I make the return to that city for mongering. I usually do not go to the same country twice as there are too many places world over to monger. Regarding romance, I had my chances when I was younger in my twenties and thirties. I was good looking, educated, good job, had money and went through some very top drawer women, not whores because I could. I always wanted more and would throw away a great woman for another great woman. I was a greedy sod. I have had my chances for romance and settle down but I have blown my chances. No more romance for me, just mongering and no attachments.

[bomjam]

They are all different compared to western women. Especially American women. They are much more feminine (in Asia and South America) and understand what it means to be a woman. And they understand that men love female companionship with a soft, feminine girl. This is something the people in the west have forgotten or have convinced themselves that it's not true.

They are all different in a beautiful way, and we should respect them. I don't recommend falling in love too quickly, but I can definitely understand how it can be so tempting.

[shadows]

its very simple for me to see whats happened to your friend , he fell in love with the girl and nothings going to change his mind about her . i have a brother that has a g/f that shows up every pay day , you can't tell him anything because he loves the girl. its a very common thing , ive seen it many many times. its easy to fall in love . i fall in love every barfine

[Ronibald]

Hello - my two cents: I can understand if someone may fall in love, they are nice, cute and some can make really good love. I like the behavior also of the woman I met. But for me is clear, it is a short time thing, maybe some days. I would not unconditionally believe, that a girl is going back to a boring village just because 200 bucks. Usually, I stay in contact but never send money. About the possibility to be lifetime happy with a Bar Girl - the same probability like any other woman.

[x7654321]

force relationships

Key word is force, you gotta let them know they can leave at anytime and mean it. It's up to them to stay, not you to force them.

any other bargirl

That's a problem right there, if you want a real relationship and you think of her as a bar girl it'll never work.

I still believe that a relationship with a bargirl can work BUT you have to have a mega amount of Money to maintain and a tolerance that shes going to fuck around on you.

No. A decent girl won't fuck around on you but you also shouldn't put her in an environment where she will. I've known guys who visit for two weeks fall in love then want the girl to quit her job at the bar but won't send money. WTF? It takes almost no money to satisfy a Filipina (even an ex-bar girl) who is serious. They can live easily on 5000 peso a month assuming they don't have any dependents.

You must come to the conclusion that your relationship is based on money but IMO what relationship on this planet is Not???.

Sure to an extent woman always need resources. The main thing is you need to find her something to do if you are going to be out of the country. Work or school and away from the bar environment (should be far away).

I can't stop him from sending money he really don't have to her and I can't stop him from stressing out about how he is going to get her here by his side.

He must be American since they have a tough time getting a Filipina a visa. Any guy whose girl is asking for more than 10,000 peso a month is not in a real relationship.

for most girls I have talked to about this subject ... the bottom line is if he wants her to be good ... then take her OUT of the bar ... and send her back to the province ... otherwise the girls don't feel the guy is serious about changing her life ...

This is 100% correct. Too many guys want the girl to stay working in the bar or not support her, neither will work.

[largebanana]

If you can fall in Love, then nothing is better. Have a great time while it lasts. To be honest some of the girls are better then real GF.

1 Firstly the Pi girls are cheaper.
2 the Pi girls do not whine all day.
3 the Pi girls knows that they have to open the legs on demand.
4 The Pi girls are genuinely sweet. Even if they are doing it for money they very often do it with their heart also.

But heck, don't expect them to be faithful when alone. But on the other hand, are you all that faithfull? so what if she fucks and sends extra money for home.

[phillike]

If you can fall in Love, then nothing is better. Have a great time while it lasts. To be honest some of the girls are better then real GF.

1 Firstly the Pi girls are cheaper.
2 the Pi girls do not whine all day.
3 the Pi girls knows that they have to open the legs on demand.
4 The Pi girls are genuinely sweet. Even if they are doing it for money they very often do it with their heart also.

But heck, don't expect them to be faithful when alone. But on the other hand, are you all that faithfull? so what if she fucks and sends extra money for home.

1. Phi girls is cheaper because of the cost of simple living is cheaper. These girls are desperatively poor. Their families are too large adding to the poverty. So the girls are happy with small amount oif money.

2. For a casual monger visiting once in a while they do not whine. But if you live with one long time I am sure they will. I have stayed with girls little too long and they do start whining saying their pussy hurts, they have headache,bodyache, they miss their family etc. So I decided to keep one girl max 1 week only.

3. For a short visit they will open their legs anytime the guy wants. They know that is what the guy wants. Besides they are looking for max amount of money and gifts and it does not help to make the man not fully satisfied. But married to one sex may not happen as frequently. Phi girls do enjoy sex it seems mainly because they are young girls with raging hormones.

4. Exactly true.

[chattyman]

[QUOTE=largebanana;1014111]If you can fall in Love, then nothing is better. Have a great time while it lasts. To be honest some of the girls are better then real GF.

1 Firstly the Pi girls are cheaper.
2 the Pi girls do not whine all day.
3 the Pi girls knows that they have to open the legs on demand.
4 The Pi girls are genuinely sweet. Even if they are doing it for money they very often do it with their heart also.


3: No wonder many mongers have sweet fuck all chance of having a real relationship with a attitude like this !