The more I think about it, the more I'm convinced that it's her boyfriend that does most of the emailing and internet stuff now. I think that the only way you get to her is via the phone.
I know that he pretends to be her in email because I'd bet money that she wouldn't try to tell me that my wife should join them. Even if a woman wanted to try something like that, they would usually suggest it as a couples thing because they would understand that my wife would be likely to want me around. Usually it's only guys that are dense enough to not see that.
He had also wanted to see about swapping pics, which is another predominantly male thing. Women don't get into porn as much because they aren't as aroused by it as men are.
He tried to make it seem like it was her, but there were just way too many indicators saying it was a guy. So based on what you said BigMoney, it wouldn't surprise me at all if the rude email was from the guy. I'd be curious if she's been involved with the emails and the rudeness, or if it's all him and he's screwing up her rep. If you feel like it, you might consider calling her and find out.
